Women and Stress

[Dark30]

   I think I just litterally laugh my ass off, HereForNow!!!  I can honestly say that I did come close to doing that with the chick I was with.    That's how pissed off she got me. I decided to leave her, before I killed her.

[HereForNow]

Well if your only in it for fun Dark then one peice of advice I can offer is,
Don't lead them on or lie about your intensions. Atleast this way if things get out of hand, atleast you were honest from the door and they can't say you played them or lied.

[HereForNow]

Herefornow,

A little cheating sometimes helps a relationship!

Veronica

   Yeah sure, until you are the one being cheated on.  

I've been cheated, and because I was doing it to I was quick to just blow it off. Once we got that out of our systems it was something we were able to handle and we went on from there.

[Dark30]

I DON'T DO THAT!!!!!  I DO try to love the one I get with, HereForNow. THEY seem like THEY are the ones that do the lying and the dishonesty and the playing. It's pretty much like being with a guy. No offense to ALL you men out there.

[HereForNow]

I DON'T DO THAT!!!!!  I DO try to love the one I get with, HereForNow. THEY seem like THEY are the ones that do the lying and the dishonesty and the playing. It's pretty much like being with a guy. No offense to ALL you men out there.

Ok but then Dark, let's take into account what the man to woman ratio is in this city. 4 women to every one man is how the population goes. Just about every guy in this town is either competing with bi and/or lesbian women or we have generally our pick and choice of almost whatever we want. Men don't really have all that much competition in these parts.

I think that might be why you feel that way. Hell I wish it was something I had to work at.
If it's a man you want Dark, first thing you might want to do is figure out what kind of guy you want.
It helps narrow down, the ever shrinking population of us out here. Second, you might have to share.
There are alot of girls who don't mind this. Sad but true.

[Dark30]

I think you might be right, HereForNow.    That's probably why it's hard to find good men these days. That's why most women turn bi or lesbian. But, then, sometimes, it is hard to compete with them too.

[Volitzer]

Yeah but try to tell women about compatibility science and you get the Jehova Witness treatment.   

[Veronica Poe]

Thank you Veronica. You and Pagan both have made me feel a little bit better about my ways. Atleast there are two of you that don't view me as a complete @ss.
Making a woman feel desired is not a problem of mine. I try showing a lover that it's all about them and I take the time to give them what their bodies are telling me they need or really want. The problem is that when they have something they really, really like and it's all been good for them the thought of other women trying to take it from them is what seems to cause all the problems. I used to get alot of attention before I got married. God knows I'm not God's gift to anyone. I'm not unattractive and yet I'm not a total pretty boy either. I'm more of that bad-boy in appearence. It was when I sleep with someone to much I tend to run into this possession category of theirs. It makes me not even want to have sex.
Even my wife has had issues with possessiveness in the past. You can't get even one of them to admit that it's physical, yet I feel it from them. Pure lust, not love. Suddenly, control is all they feel they can resort to in keeping this object all to themselves because they don't trust me enough to be faithful.
Once upon a time, I was the most faithful guy I knew of. As time went on and head games got better, I decided I was tired of being this controllable, and gullable little man of theirs. I was sick of being the one that was always getting played. I was hurt so badly once that I actually considered abstinence.

I got into all kinds of things that not only improved my confidence levels, but it also did wonders for me in other ways. I worked on my physical appearence, financial income, life style and so on.
Before I knew it, I was becoming this guy I barely even knew. Thats when I knew that I could do what ever it takes to accomplish anything, but all I wanted is to know what real love was.
Many stepped up to bat but after everything I went through just to find love, I became cold and almost inhuman emotionally. I knew then that ever being in-love with anyone was impossible for me.
All I could do is try to be the best I can for that person who fell in-love with me, and pray that I didn't hurt them or break their heart. Because I'm not into head-games, my wife knows all of this about me and endured. God bless her! All I expect from her is to not seek control or be possesive and in exchange I will honor her wishes in regaurds to being completely honest with her about everything. This actually is working between us.

The idea is, to eliminate this need that people have for control in a relationship. With doing this, you do away with atleast that part of the stress. Last thing I want to do is be the reason for the tears of a woman to fall. All I want is to be treated with the same respect they demand from me.
Now, one of the really interesting things that I see that really stresses women out is financial problems.
Does it have to do with materialism? Is it because of a fear of not being better then the neighbors?
I have actually seen great couples who at one time were madly in-love with each other completely selfdestruct because of this. Ofcourse it was stress that was at the heart of the matter. So what is it about material possessions that creates this kind of stress for women?

Hmm, I really don't know what you mean about material possessions, that really has very little to do with anything.  Even when a woman wants a diamond, it is mostly a self-esteem issue.  Here is the answer to all your problems:  it really isn't about what you can provide to each other in a relationship in terms of moentary matters as opposed to how you make one another feel. If you treat her well, make her feel good about herself, that is really half the battle.  And I know enough about men to know that it is essentially the same for him, too.  After all the mind games and psychological bull ****, it really comes down to that:  how each of you makes the other feel when you are around one another, no one wants to hang out with someone who is a complete drag, right?  So, I guess, look for ways to give her a good feeling about herself, knowing that it is transferred to you, and that is half the battle.

Peace,

Veronica

[HereForNow]

Ok then with all this said, we see that Men can be stressful for women. As women can sometimes be stressful for men.  Easy fix? I would think is to simply let nature take it's course.

Now what is one of the major things that women are primarily stressing the most over today?
Is it more physical or emotional?

[Dark30]

Today, most of the stress comes from kids, work, work AND school  at the same time. Marriage can some times be a stresser; so, I've been warned.    Or, living two lives at one time. Money.   There are alot of stressful things.  Even with prices rising so much; that's stressful.

[HereForNow]

I wouldn't even know where to start if I wanted to talk about the things that stress me out.
You have to have a sence of humor for sure if you don't want it killin ya. 
My testamony is exempt. Na Na This is about women and stress. Not Harry.   LOL
Please. Continue.

[HereForNow]

Yeah but try to tell women about compatibility science and you get the Jehova Witness treatment.  

[HereForNow]

Hmm, I really don't know what you mean about material possessions, that really has very little to do with anything.  Even when a woman wants a diamond, it is mostly a self-esteem issue.

At my age I listen to others in whom I grew up with talk about past marriages and funerals for their friends. Material possessions left by the death of the homes provider is all some people will be receiving.
This makes having some financial security important to some spouces.

If you treat her well, make her feel good about herself, that is really half the battle.  And I know enough about men to know that it is essentially the same for him, too.  After all the mind games and psychological bull s***, it really comes down to that:  how each of you makes the other feel when you are around one another

  Thats how we all expect it to be. It's nice to laugh after a hard day and greet your partner while they greet you smiling. However there is an old saying that us shop rats live by:
"A thousand thad a' boyz is undone by just one Ah S***" Coexistence is hard for everyone.
 

[Volitzer]

Today, most of the stress comes from kids, work, work AND school  at the same time. Marriage can some times be a stresser; so, I've been warned.    Or, living two lives at one time. Money.   There are alot of stressful things.  Even with prices rising so much; that's stressful.

Of course you can tell someone to watch...

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Endgame

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America: Freedom to Fascism

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The Track Records:

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...to deal with stress but it's too much for your average dopey adult to fathom.   

[HereForNow]

I know of one more thing that totally stresses women out.

"NO"